Answering, “Who Am I?” With A Chronic Disease

“Who am I?” is a tricky question because we often mean two very different things. One version of the question is, “Who am I today?” The other version is, “Who am I going to be tomorrow?” Version one is straight forward. You’re a good parent. You care about your community. Chances are, you’re drinking too much and are staying up too late… Just like everyone else. You’re also a hard worker and are too hard on yourself. In concrete terms, you know yourself.

The second question is daunting. How can you answer who you’ll be tomorrow with confidence? You have a hard enough time knowing what you’ll be having for dinner.  It’s an intimidating question because it demands you lay bare and vulnerable your dreams on the chopping block of chance. Yes, you’re hard working but only so much is up to you.  The idea your most closely held dreams may never becoming a reality is truly painful. In some sense, it is easier to keep your dreams to yourself. While they may never come about, at least they’re safe. But, not risking your dreams is a straight line to depression, resentment, and self-loathing.

Now, throw in the complication of a chronic or terminal illness. Lime disease, cancer, going blind. The question, “Who am I going to be tomorrow” becomes profoundly difficult.  It amplifies the fear that holds everyone back from following their dreams. What’s the use of trying?

The answer is that the use is in the trying. Fear or not, the most profound moments of your life will always be fighting for your dreams. That doesn’t stop because of a serious or chronic disease.  There is something good and meaningful in what is important to you. In the deepest sense, your dreams are you.  Research shows fighting for your dreams is a powerful cause of good health, happiness, and longevity. That is because trying to transform your dreams into a reality is the building blocks of life.  Instead of asking, “Who am I,” it might be better to ask, “When I’m gone what do I want my life to have stood for?”

Yonasan Bender, SW graduated from Hebrew University’s School of Social Work. He has his psychotherapy practice at The Place: The Jerusalem Centre for Emotional Wellbeing. To share your thoughts, experiences, questions, or a different perspective, you can reach Yonasan Bender at 053-808-0435 or email him by clicking HERE. To learn more about him and his work, click HERE.

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