"Pursuing the humanistic search of purpose and belonging"
Rabbi David Benchlouch
MSc

David knows first hand the need to belong, the desire to connect, and the qualities of good treatment. David has been providing healing and treatment to adolescents, adults, and couples for the past 12 years. His greatest achievement in life is the freedom gained by the success of his clients. His mission is one to heal through empathic listening, unconditional positive regard, transference,  and psychodynamic levels of conceptualization of the client’s story.

I Have forever been in the field of people. My earliest memories are of attempting to understand behavior, problem solving, and bridging the gap between what is and what should be as a growing child. I would question the societal norms when facing school mates, family, and the great fantasy of belonging in the world. 

I began my professional journey mentoring kids at risk in New York at the age of 20, later carrying this forward to high school and yeshiva students in Jerusalem through age 30, obtaining certifications in youth counseling, NLP, and coaching. I later professionally and academically excelled my passion with a Masters degree in Clinical Counselling. This transformed my ability to conceptualize behavior. I focused on trauma, grief work, OCD, anxiety, anger, and personality  disorders. My greatest exposure to the inner world of clients, healing, and behavior modification was as senior community rabbi and psychotherapist in Cape Town, South Africa. This 5 years tenure began at age 30 and subsumed in June 2020 with my Aliya to Israel. This exposed me to multicultural, ethical, and gender based cases in which empathy and pragmatic understanding of human behavior has been developed. I conceptualize psychotherapy as a collaborative relationship with the client and focus on strength-based interventions, weekly action plans from CBT, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, and Solution Focused Therapy. My theoretical modalities rest on existential, cognitive, and behavioral models in pursue of the humanistic search of purpose and belonging within the realm of our daily experiences. 

Secrets are a big thing. They are normally there with trauma work. Clients with a history of primary, secondary or tertiary trauma benefit most at unlocking secrets, or the secret thoughts they have of themselves such as self blame, self directed criticism, and hopelessness. The way to freedom is truth. The opening aura, the illuminating of a client’s light, only occurs when we breach through the chain of secrecy, we therapeutically pour it out to the confines of our therapeutic relationship and the road ahead is enmeshed with a broth of acceptance, motivation, and skills to the ‘new you’ of the client. 

A Story. A Star.

I’ll never forget the tears of a client in her final treatment session, where an incredible transference was made between us in a professional and altruistic way, paving the road to self care and self monitoring. As difficult as it may be for a therapist, letting the client ‘go’ when they are ready to soar the skies of their new world is the greatest pleasure for me. I believe in THERAPY TO THE POINT. There is no reason to drag on sessions beyond what the client needs. My average sessions span between 8-12 meetings with a client. The brief solution focused therapy modality guides me in questioning what more have we got to work on together, and whether today is the final session we have, or have we elements to further discover? My STAR client revealed his traumas from over 50 years ago, which explained his personality disorders, deteriorating health, and avoidance mechanisms. How so? 

Diagnosis 

Do I believe in a diagnosis? Theorists will argue whether diagnosis guides treatment with many scholars denoting the motion of ever having to diagnose or label anyone. I am not against it, though I may utilize the DSM- 5 for my personal understanding and selection of techniques to employ, but not so to close in on my client’s story in response to their pathology. Rather, when a client reports having Bipolar Disorder, OCD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, or Agoraphobia as an example, I may ask what about their behavior makes them convinced they are so? I want to know what YOU the client make of it, not what people told you, I care little about what the world makes you believe and am curious about YOUR story. A client who keeps cutting themself may hide or may show the cutting marks, and I will inquisitively reflect, with utmost curiosity, what gains he or she may have from their behavior. I truly believe every behavior is comprehensible when we hear the story precipitation the event. 

Now is Your Time!

Don’t wait to heal yourself. Therapy works! It is a matter of taking matters into your own hands, but I’ll hold you! You never know what a session can bring, but you can only find out once you’ve picked yourself up to make the first phone call.  I see therapy as a shiduch; not every client and therapist are meant to be working together, but when the right fit comes along the reward is exceptionally satisfying for both client and therapist. I believe the therapist needs to also enjoy the session, to feel accomplished in working with every client, as a mutual contractual sense of partnership to successful treatment outcomes.

If you feel you have not been heard, if you know there are blocks in your life of resentment, anger, self directed hostility, or behaviors you cannot seem to contain, get help! It is accessible, and you owe it to yourself!

David knows first hand the need to belong, the desire to connect, and the qualities of good treatment. David has been providing healing and treatment to adolescents, adults, and couples for the past 12 years. His greatest achievement in life is the freedom gained by the success of his clients. His mission is one to heal through empathic listening, unconditional positive regard, transference,  and psychodynamic levels of conceptualization of the client’s story.

I Have forever been in the field of people. My earliest memories are of attempting to understand behavior, problem solving, and bridging the gap between what is and what should be as a growing child. I would question the societal norms when facing school mates, family, and the great fantasy of belonging in the world. 

I began my professional journey mentoring kids at risk in New York at the age of 20, later carrying this forward to high school and yeshiva students in Jerusalem through age 30, obtaining certifications in youth counseling, NLP, and coaching. I later professionally and academically excelled my passion with a Masters degree in Clinical Counselling. This transformed my ability to conceptualize behavior. I focused on trauma, grief work, OCD, anxiety, anger, and personality  disorders. My greatest exposure to the inner world of clients, healing, and behavior modification was as senior community rabbi and psychotherapist in Cape Town, South Africa. This 5 years tenure began at age 30 and subsumed in June 2020 with my Aliya to Israel. This exposed me to multicultural, ethical, and gender based cases in which empathy and pragmatic understanding of human behavior has been developed. I conceptualize psychotherapy as a collaborative relationship with the client and focus on strength-based interventions, weekly action plans from CBT, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, and Solution Focused Therapy. My theoretical modalities rest on existential, cognitive, and behavioral models in pursue of the humanistic search of purpose and belonging within the realm of our daily experiences. 

Secrets are a big thing. They are normally there with trauma work. Clients with a history of primary, secondary or tertiary trauma benefit most at unlocking secrets, or the secret thoughts they have of themselves such as self blame, self directed criticism, and hopelessness. The way to freedom is truth. The opening aura, the illuminating of a client’s light, only occurs when we breach through the chain of secrecy, we therapeutically pour it out to the confines of our therapeutic relationship and the road ahead is enmeshed with a broth of acceptance, motivation, and skills to the ‘new you’ of the client. 

A Story. A Star.

I’ll never forget the tears of a client in her final treatment session, where an incredible transference was made between us in a professional and altruistic way, paving the road to self care and self monitoring. As difficult as it may be for a therapist, letting the client ‘go’ when they are ready to soar the skies of their new world is the greatest pleasure for me. I believe in THERAPY TO THE POINT. There is no reason to drag on sessions beyond what the client needs. My average sessions span between 8-12 meetings with a client. The brief solution focused therapy modality guides me in questioning what more have we got to work on together, and whether today is the final session we have, or have we elements to further discover? My STAR client revealed his traumas from over 50 years ago, which explained his personality disorders, deteriorating health, and avoidance mechanisms. How so? 

Diagnosis 

Do I believe in a diagnosis? Theorists will argue whether diagnosis guides treatment with many scholars denoting the motion of ever having to diagnose or label anyone. I am not against it, though I may utilize the DSM- 5 for my personal understanding and selection of techniques to employ, but not so to close in on my client’s story in response to their pathology. Rather, when a client reports having Bipolar Disorder, OCD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, or Agoraphobia as an example, I may ask what about their behavior makes them convinced they are so? I want to know what YOU the client make of it, not what people told you, I care little about what the world makes you believe and am curious about YOUR story. A client who keeps cutting themself may hide or may show the cutting marks, and I will inquisitively reflect, with utmost curiosity, what gains he or she may have from their behavior. I truly believe every behavior is comprehensible when we hear the story precipitation the event. 

Now is Your Time!

Don’t wait to heal yourself. Therapy works! It is a matter of taking matters into your own hands, but I’ll hold you! You never know what a session can bring, but you can only find out once you’ve picked yourself up to make the first phone call.  I see therapy as a shiduch; not every client and therapist are meant to be working together, but when the right fit comes along the reward is exceptionally satisfying for both client and therapist. I believe the therapist needs to also enjoy the session, to feel accomplished in working with every client, as a mutual contractual sense of partnership to successful treatment outcomes.

If you feel you have not been heard, if you know there are blocks in your life of resentment, anger, self directed hostility, or behaviors you cannot seem to contain, get help! It is accessible, and you owe it to yourself!

ABOUT DAVID

Specialties

Kids At Risk

Building a better future for children

Trauma

Revealing secrets that heal the soul

Marital Therapy

Rediscovering forgotten love and friendship

Individuals

Committing to a better future

Certification & Training


• Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling (Bellevue University, 2020) • CBT for Personality Disorders (Beck Institute) • CBT for Anxiety (Beck Institute) • CBT for Depression (Beck Institute)